{"id":3024,"date":"2026-08-10T12:59:08","date_gmt":"2026-08-10T12:59:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/you-werent-born-a-perfectionist\/"},"modified":"2026-09-09T14:40:10","modified_gmt":"2026-09-09T14:40:10","slug":"you-werent-born-a-perfectionist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/you-werent-born-a-perfectionist\/","title":{"rendered":"You weren&#8217;t born a perfectionist"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cYou aren\u2019t born a perfectionist.\u201d Stress expert Elke Van Hoof on coping with stress, setting boundaries, and the brain\u2019s neuroplasticity. <\/p>\n<p>Who\u2019s in the driver\u2019s seat when you say \u201cyes\u201d again even though everything in your body is screaming \u201cno\u201d? Is this really who you are, or is it behavior you once learned in order to fit in? <\/p>\n<p>In this episode of \u201cStress as a BFF,\u201d stress expert Elke Van Hoof explains what\u2019s really going on in those moments: it all comes down to three ingrained patterns. Patterns that were once necessary for fitting in, but that today fuel stress that makes you sick without you even realizing it. <\/p>\n<p>Elke introduces the metaphor of the bus, with its different versions of \u201cI,\u201d one of which always rushes to the wheel when under stress. She explains how socialization and coping behaviors stemming from your upbringing have programmed that autopilot, and why, thanks to neuroplasticity, what you once learned can also be relearned differently. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cYou aren\u2019t born a perfectionist.\u201d Stress expert Elke Van Hoof &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":3025,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":"","_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[173],"tags":[316],"class_list":["post-3024","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-podcast","tag-podcast-episode-39"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3024","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3024"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3024\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3794,"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3024\/revisions\/3794"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3025"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3024"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3024"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ohmypeople.be\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3024"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}